What is Stalking?



Stalking is a series of actions that make you feel afraid or in danger. Stalking is serious, often violent, and can escalate over time. A stalker can be someone you know well or not at all. Most have dated or been involved with the people they stalk.

1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men will be stalked in their lifetime. 

1.4 million people are stalked every year in the United States. Information adapted from The National Center for Victims of Crime

If You're Stalked You Might...

Feel fear of what the stalker will do.

Feel vulnerable, unsafe, and not know who to trust.

Feel anxious, irritable, impatient, or on edge.

Feel depressed, hopeless, overwhelmed, tearful, or angry.

Have eating problems, such as appetite loss, forgetting to eat, or overeating.

Have flashbacks, disturbing thoughts, feelings, or memories.

Feel confused, frustrated,  or isolated because other people don't understand why you are afraid.

This information is adapted from the Stalking Resource Center.

Click here for a stalking log to record all the contact from the stalker. (This log was created by the Stalking Resource Center.)

Helpful Tips if You're Being Stalked

  1. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.

  2. Trust your instincts, you're feeling unsafe for a reason.

  3. Take threats seriously. 

  4. Call us at 1-800-639-3130 and we can create a safety plan with you.

  5. Create a safety plan that includes routine changes, places you could stay, and trusted friends/relatives who could go places with you.

  6. Ignore your stalker when they attempt to contact you. Do not communicate with them.

  7. Record all the contact your stalker makes with you. Keep notes, letters, emails, texts, and online messages and record the time, date, and place of all contact. Photograph anything the stalker damages or injuries they cause to you.

  8. Contact the police.

  9. Consider filing a stalking petition, which will restrain the stalker from making any contact with you.

  10. Talk with trusted people about the stalking.

  11. Notify security staff at work or school, they can help monitor your safety.


This list was adapted from the Stalking Resource Center.

NOTE: Sometimes stalking is a part of domestic violence and sexual assault.

Supporting a Friend or Loved One

Stalking can be very frightening for a victim or survivor. It may also be frightening for those who care about them. If someone you know is being stalked:

1. Talk with them about safety. Help them plan for different situations.

2. Listen. Let the person you care about talk about their experiences and express their emotions.

3. Learn more about stalking. Contact Turning Points Network or check out our links page to get more information about stalking.