Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month web

How TPN Works

with Teens

Someone under 18 years old, also called a minor, can work with a TPN advocate in the office one time without TPN having to receive a parent or guardian’s permission. After the initial visit, we are required to receive permission from your parent or guardian to continue. Remember, our crisis and support hotline is available 24/7 with someone there to listen, guide and support you. Some people choose to call TPN anonymously, without giving a real name, and can discuss situations hypothetically to receive information and support.

Calling the Crisis and Support Line

By calling 1-800-639-3130 during office hours (Mon-Fri 9:00-4:30) a member of TPN staff will answer from our office. If you call at any other time, an answering service will ask for your first name and phone number. A volunteer will then call you back within five minutes. You are not required to give your name or age, but you certainly may. Keep in mind, TPN staff members are mandated reporters of abuse that happens to a minor; if you aren’t ready to report, consider not giving your age.

If you need someone to talk to or you’ve been abused or assaulted

Even people who care very much about you may not respond in the way you hope, or in a way that is helpful to you. It may be hard for friends and family to hear about what happened to you. The people you tell will have their own emotions about what happened. They may feel overwhelmed, angry, sad shocked, or numb.

TPN can help you sort out who to tell, and when. And remember, while you are figuring this out, you can call our 24-hour hotline anonymously. 1-800-639-3130.

What you can do to help a friend

Sometimes it’s hard to know what to say or do if a friend, or someone else you care about, has been hurt. Understand that your friend is probably dealing with a number of emotions, and like you, may not know how to talk about it either.

If a friend tells you they’ve experienced domestic violence or have been sexually assaulted, the first thing to do is believe them. Reassure them that they are not to blame. Don’t ask questions or force information that they don’t offer, be patient and kind, and support them every step of the way, even if they choose not to report.

Things to say:

I believe you and am sorry this happened.

Do you want or need medical attention?

Nothing you did (or didn’t do) makes you deserve this.

I’m glad you told me.

You are not alone.

Things NOT to say:

Just try to forget it happened.

Get over it.

This wouldn’t have happened if you hadn’t                       

Don’t tell anyone else this happened. This is private.

It’s possible you know someone who is a victim or survivor of abuse, assault, harassment or other crimes, however it is also possible that you know someone who has or may in the future commit these crimes. To see this list of warning signs to watch for CLICK HERE.